Monday, August 8, 2016



THE truth about me is that I'm no expert on tidying up and de-cluttering and I'm am not the most organised person in the world, so I am not here to offer advice.  In about 5 to 6 weeks, I am planning to move home; and by home I mean back to where I was born.
I have lived here in South Australia for 13 and a half years and now it's time to go back to Melbourne.  I am really looking forward to it.

Despite the fact that I am not a very organised person, I am finding my own way to get rid of anything that I don't need or use.  My rubbish bin and my recycle bin have become my best friends.  I have become quite RUTHLESS.  I can't believe I am actually saying that about myself.  As a rule I am not a ruthless person.  I am a bit of a hoarder and tend to keep unnecessary things; things that I will probably never use again and way too many things at that.  So to say that I am being ruthless at the moment is really a milestone for me.

I look at people that are organised, tidy and have a place for everything; and look to them in awe.  I think to myself, why can't I be like that?  Then I realise that everyone is different and we all have different qualities.  For some people being tidy and organised comes naturally.  For me it doesn't.  So in the end it is something that I have to work at.  I don't ever want to be fanatical about organising things; I just want to have places for everything in my house and not have to go into freak-out mode when someone knocks at my door.

So here I am at the moment organising and packing; getting rid of
junk and keeping what I do use and will use.  I'm thinking of having a garage sale to make some money on anything that is of value; and maybe get rid of some clothes that I no longer need.  After than anything left can go to the op shop.  

Interestingly for me, I am finding that the more I de-clutter and pack the more I want to get it done.  I am realising that it can be addictive.  Did I actually say that ?  Did I even contemplate it being addictive ?  No, the thought that it was addictive just happened upon me in a moment of true enlightenment !!!  and do I feel happy about that, I sure do.

Someone said to me that packing and moving is CATHARTIC and although I had never thought of that before.....I have to say I agree that it is.  Actually I have decided that that is my new favourite word.

Moving right along  ...........

Sunday, August 7, 2016

Making new and happy memories.....

I didn't realise how long it had been since I last posted on my blog .......April 2014.  My life has taken a few detours of late and I thought that writing in my blog would be a good way of expressing myself.

About 5 or 6 weeks ago I was asked to leave the job that I had been in for seven and a half years.  I was totally devastated.  I loved my job so much, but there was nothing I could do.  It hasn't been easy, in fact it's been a very rocky road, and it certainly didn't happen in the way that I thought I would end up leaving my job.  The whole thing has probably been more like a Roller Coaster, than a rocky road.

Sadly with what has happened I find it difficult to look at my happy memories from the past.   So right now I am busy making new and happy memories for myself.  I am focusing on what it is that I can do to make my future a good one.

Sometimes when things like this happen you rethink what you are doing and you come to major decisions in your life, and to that end I am moving from where I am now, back home to Melbourne.  This has given me a happy thought.  I will be back near to my children, which will be really nice. 

As a consequence of moving back home, I have much to do here and now.  I am having a BIG CLEAN UP .......a total declutter; being ruthless and getting rid of as much 'junk' as I can.  You know those things that you pack away in boxes, or that sit on a shelf in the cupboard and if you are honest with yourself you never use.... in fact you actually have to ask yourself when was the last time that you used them.......well those are the things that I am giving away or getting rid of.

Now that I am not working, I am studying, taking the time to read some great novels and as a result finding new authors (Judy Nunn and Liane Moriarty), both of which I love.  I have a pile of books waiting to be read.  I am also knitting my mum a rug.  Mum has dementia and lives in a nursing home in Tasmania.  I just thought that a bright rug (photos to follow) would be nice on her bed.  I know she won't realise who made it for her, but even if she doesn't, I know that I have knitted it for her and it has been made with much love.

...........Till next time   

Sunday, April 27, 2014

OBSTACLES don't have to stop you .......

I realised today that I haven’t blogged in slightly more than a month.  I enjoy blogging but don’t always get the time to sit down and write.

This month has been one of progress and learning.  I am learning so much about myself, which is a good thing, given that I have some time yet to grow and progress in this life.  I love my life and am learning that each day there is a lesson in life.  It might only be something small, but it might be something that will make a huge difference to who we are and where we go in this life.

I am still on my journey to better health and being fitter and along the way I am still losing weight.  I have now lost 18kgs….. could be more but haven’t weighed myself in a couple of weeks.  I don’t like weighing myself all the time because whilst I want to keep losing weight and that is part of the goal, I am happy if I am increasing my fitness and feeling healthier along the way.  I figure that the weight will come off with time.

I am getting fitter and that is awesome.  The biggest thing I am learning through all of this is that I can keep on going.  Sometimes it is hard and I don’t want to keep going.  My personal trainer has me doing a variety of workouts at the gym.  Sometimes it is legwork, sometimes cardio, and sometimes upper body.  All of these have different challenges.  No matter what, the important thing I have learnt is to keep going and even more important is the fact that I have kept on going.  I have risen to the challenges even when it has been really hard and I did not want to keep on going. 

For every step that we take forward and every success that we have we learn something about our self, who we are as a person.  We may have days when things don’t go the way that we would like or we may have days when we go backwards, but that is not the end of our journey.  Going backwards does not mean failure.  Once upon a time if that happened to me I would have given up and not tried again for a very long time.  I am finding with time and the progression of my journey that a step backwards does not mean failure, and so I move on a lot more quickly now and get back to where I was before.

If I can say anything to those reading this blog is DON’T GIVE UP.  Set goals and keep on going no matter what happens.  When you do take a step backwards, don’t see it as THE END, see it as a hiccup in this journey called life and you will progress and move on eventually.

I like being the age I am now ….. yes I am 55 years old ….. I would have thought that it was REALLY old once, but it doesn’t seem old at all any more.  I guess because it’s where I am right now.  Age is just a number anyway and I am not a numbers person.  I find as I get older, some of the things that were important to me when I was younger, really don’t matter that much any more.  

v I realise that I don’t care as much about what other people think of me any more.  I care what I think of me and what I am doing in my life.  I care whether I am a good person or not or what I am doing to make the world a better place.  If others don’t like me then so be it.  That is their decision, their choice. 
v I realise more and more that what I do in this life has an impact on others.  I want to be the best person I can be.  I don’t care that other people are different to me; it doesn’t matter any more.  I can still exist in the world with them.
v I want to make a difference in the lives of others.  I can do that by showing respect to all fellow human beings.  By being there for others when they need me.  I can make a difference by using kind words and by taking the time to listen and try to understand what others are going through. 
v One of the biggest things I have come to realise during this past month is that some people come into this life, this earthly existence, not because they need to be here to learn anything, but because we need them here to teach us something.  I spent a weekend with my brother and sister-in-law and their 2 beautiful, beautiful children my niece and nephew, who both have Autism.  I spent time with 2 little angels.  What a blessing they are to this life and this world.  These little souls teach us much about love, and that there are more than words to communication.  They teach us to love no matter what. 

The world can be a very harsh place for some of us and so why not strive to make that world a little better for everyone in it.

I have done a few other things this month and will write about them in subsequent posts. 

and so the journey Continues .........

Sunday, March 23, 2014


I am still plodding along on my journey to a healthier (both mentally and physically), fitter me and I love it.  My life is so different now.  I am learning so much about myself.  Sure it is a challenge at times, but then who doesn’t have a life with some sort of challenge in it.  I always think, how would you learn and grow and progress even, without challenge.  I go to the gym 6 days in 7: walking 7klm one day and doing a gym session the other.  I have to pinch myself sometimes to check that this is for real.  At the end of last year, and despite having set my goal, I still didn’t know how I was going to achieve it.  Guess when you want to achieve a goal, you just go ahead and do it; exactly what I have done.
Life is like a Roller Coaster - sometimes up and sometimes down (I've posted about this before).  There are times when you are all set for a great day and it doesn’t quite turn out quite the way you planned.  I’ve had my share of ups and downs of late.  Sometimes it feels like more downs.  One moment I’m on top of the world and the next I’m struggling to make it through another day.  The important thing here is not so much that I am having a bad day, but rather how I handle that.  What I say to myself when I am feeling low.

I have come to realise that apart from making a decision to reach my goal, the single most important thing along the way is SELF-TALK.  How you talk to yourself makes all the difference.  Oh sure, some people would think you mad if you talked to yourself.  You don’t have to talk out loud, but rather it’s more the voice inside my head giving me positive feedback, when I don’t necessarily feel positive.

The past will come up to bite you on the backside if you aren’t aware of it.  If you don’t have a back up plan for the moment when the negative voices from the past come to drag you back there, then you will go right along with them, falling into that old trap of believing what you think.  Those thoughts are not always reality.  Before you know it you are back in the past with no hope of achieving your dream.

So my advice is to say as many positive things as you can to yourself.  Find heaps of quotes and sayings: read them and say them over and over to yourself.  Affirm the good in you and who you are.  At first you might find it confronting (I know I did), not very easy and somewhat unbelievable.  When I first started saying good things to myself; quotes, sayings and the like, I struggled to believe what I was reading/saying.  Actually believing what I was saying wasn’t exactly the problem, but rather believing it about me was more to the point.

Finally in the journey, I am starting to say these things to myself and I actually believe them.  It isn’t always something I do well, but at least I am putting in the effort and the only way to make it work, is to keep on putting one foot in front of the other and doing it regularly, no doing it daily and it does get easier and you do start to believe it more with each passing day.

I honestly believe we were born into this world to learn, to grow and progress and to achieve.  I know everyone doesn’t believe in God/Heavenly Father, but I do and I believe that he knew what we were all capable of, but we don’t know what we are capable of.  It is only through our experiences, achievements and even our failures, that we learn our true potential.  I am learning much about myself and what I am capable of through this road that I have taken, this journey that I am on.  Oh and I am so grateful 
for the opportunity, for without it I would not know my true potential.

I am also grateful for those along the way, those who cross my path, that help me to learn lessons in life, great or small, but lessons nonetheless.  

Sunday, March 2, 2014


Life is a challenge.  Just getting through one day at a time can be the biggest challenge of all.

The challenge I set myself at the end of last year was by far the biggest challenge I have ever embarked on in my life.  I needed a challenge and wanted a challenge more than anything.  As I have said before, this is the year for me to get healthy and turn my life around.  Every day is a challenge.  Even just to get out of bed sometimes, especially when I am so tired that I don’t want to move is a challenge.

When I started out on this journey, I knew it would be just that, a challenge.  Changing old habits and doing new things is always a challenge.  You tend to want to stick to the old ways and even if you try to do the right things, the new things, at times you will automatically go back to doing what is comfortable and familiar.  That is where the challenge comes in.

You have to think a lot more.  Think about what you are doing and not just run on automatic pilot.  Instead of grabbing a piece of chocolate, you have to think, and remember instead to grab a piece of fruit, a healthy snack instead. 

People have been asking me ….. How are you doing it?  What are you doing?  What ‘diet’ are you on?

First of all ‘DIET’ …. Now there is a word that I personally do not like.  Diet is the food that you eat.  We all have a diet, we all eat a diet …. Of food that is.  Some of our diets are not healthy and other people have very healthy diets.  I now chose for the most part to have a healthy diet.  Am I following The Pritikin diet, or Weight Watchers or Jenny Craig????  No I am not.  Actually I am just following the eating healthy diet.  The one where you eat nutritious food.

I eat 3 meals a day and snacks in between.  I have come to realise through
research and other information that it is best (at least for me) to eat smaller meals more frequently.  I have a protein shake for breakfast with berries in it.  I buy frozen mixed berries from the supermarket and at these to a very healthy shake.  I am using Herbalife, which is awesome, has a great flavour, and after researching which one was best, I think I have made the right decision.  I take vitamins … also Herbalife.  Besides the shake powder, which I put in soy milk, or if that is not available I use low fat milk, I also add some protein powder.  I find that the shakes are really good and don’t leave me feeling hungry.  The protein powder added helps to stave off those feelings.

As a snack I have 12 almonds or a piece of fruit, or a tub of yoghurt or some other healthy snack.  I will then have another shake at lunch time or much of the time I will have a salad roll, with a piece of lean meat in it and fill it with salad. In the afternoon I will have another snack, again a handful of almonds or a piece of fruit.  Then at dinnertime I will have chicken or steak and vegetables or salad, not skimping on the veges or salad.  Sometimes I even just feel like eating a bowl of salad without meat and I love that too. To some people this would not seem like a lot of food and they may even think that I am not eating enough, but I don’t feel deprived, certainly don’t feel hungry and feel that I am getting plenty of nutrition.  

Things that have changed for me are; eating more regularly throughout the day.  I eat earlier in the morning.  It used to be lunchtime before I would have anything to eat in the past, but now I have breakfast at breakfast time.  I know that eating on a more regular basis means that I am not pigging out at the end of the day because I am starving.  I also eat 6 smaller meals throughout the day, and that includes my snacks.  This speeds up your metabolism.

Most importantly I drink plenty of water.  I drink 2 to 3 litres per day .... most days I drink 3 litres.  This is so important for your body and a must if you want to be healthy.

The biggest change of course has been exercising. I now exercise 6 days a week.  I train with a personal trainer (pt) 3 days a week and I walk the other 3 days.  I do a 45 min session with the pt and although it has been a challenge and is an ongoing challenge, I really do love it and love what it is doing for my health and fitness.  I feel healthier than I have in a very long time.  Then I walk 3 times per week on alternate days to my workouts at the gym.  Then I have one day off a week.  At the moment I am walking 5.5klms, which after today will be 6klm 3 times a week. 

The one other thing that I would say is to have a good nights sleep, don't get tired, because when you do you are more likely to want to eat foods that are not good for you or to binge eat.  So if you are tired, and you can, have a sleep, it will do more good for you than bingeing out on unhealthy food.

As most of you know through my blog I started out walking 1klm and thought that I was going to die.  I got home and slumped into a chair and puffed and panted and sweated like nothing else.  I didn’t know if I could go out the next day, in fact I didn’t know if I was going to live to see the next day.  But well obviously I did.  That first day I wondered if I could do the challenge that I had set myself.  I had serious doubts and concerns.  However, despite those doubts and concerns, the one thing I did know was that I had a goal that I wanted to achieve, and I thought to myself, this just has to get better, I can’t feel like this forever.  So I just kept on going, each day, believing that it would get better. 

Along the way I knew that if I were going to ride in the Ride to Conquer Cancer (which by the way is now not happening) I would need some help.  Walking was not going to cut it.  I would need to build up strength in my legs and upper body and knew that I was going to need help with that.  I knew it would be expensive and that I would need the help of a personal trainer, but I also knew that if I were going to succeed I would have to do it.  We all have to make sacrifices sometimes and I knew that I would have to make sacrifices financially to do this.  The thing is when you want to achieve a goal, really achieve a goal; you will do anything to achieve it.  That was the way it was for me.  So with the help of a pt it was onward and upward.
 Doing these things doesn’t come without much thought and perseverance, determination and effort. 

·      Decide what your goal is, what it is that you want to achieve.  Make that goal something that you REALLY want to achieve.  Something that has great significance and meaning for you.
·      Make a decision to achieve that goal.  The decision is the most important thing – I can stress that enough.  This means taking steps to achieve it no matter what happens.
·      Have small goals along the way.  This will help you to feel a sense of achievement on the journey to getting to the bigger goal.  This will help you to feel as though you are achieving something.
·      Be determined to keep on going, even when the going gets tough.
·      This is one of the most important things – you must have good self-talk.  The things you say to yourself must be positive and uplifting.  Whenever you have negative thoughts or feelings, you have to challenge them.  Know in advance the type of things that you will say to yourself.
·      Most importantly don’t let anybody, anyone or anything steal your dream.  Stay focused no matter what goes on around you.

So that is my journey so far and what I am doing to make my dream and my goal happen.